So today I came to the somewhat gripping realization that all of my friends who are already in relationships seem to be engaged. Which is great! (she says without even a hint of jealousy.) Seriously I love you all and am looking forward to being "that drunk girl" at your weddings.
But with all the joyful news comes a real feeling of being adrift. Lets see if you can follow my musings here. Although a solid half of my friends are walking down the aisle pretty soon , a whole other half is pursuing less domestic paths. No one is going in the same direction anymore. Without the confines of the college schedule, we all scattered to the proverbial wind, and I cant possibly be the only one who thinks it's a little terrifying.
Maybe its the natural side effect of being in one's mid twenties. Maybe it's the realization that you are long done with puberty and you aren't getting any taller and your boobs aren't getting any bigger, at least not naturally. Or the onset of all those mental illnesses that are just showing up (it's true. I took a psych class). But suffice it to say I think we are all in a bit of a quarter life crisis. Engaged or not (mostly not in my case), employed or not, the consensus among my cohort seems to be leaning toward a feeling of stress and malaise. Which is fun.
I feel like, for the first time in my life, there are no expectations. No one is pushing me or lecturing me or relying on me. This leaves me with only myself to rebel against (which isn't nearly as satisfying as it sounds), and an existential crisis.
I remain positive though. After all, I have all those weddings to look forward to.
1 week ago
4 comments:
cheers to the quarter life, existential crisis. happy i can join you ;)
and to all of you getting married,
for the love of god please have an open bar.
so very true. drifting has become a specialty of mine.
i never understood how people expect us to be in school from the time of our earliest memories until our early twenties, essentially our entire lives, and then they let you go with no instructions or mid-way step.
it's kind if like a guy who gets out of jail and then is like WTF do I do now?
ps. look who's blogging now ;-) i look forward to laughing at YOUR entries in 5 years
-liz
i agree with kerri. open bar is the only way to go. one day, when you do get engaged, please remember this. weddings aren't fun without free alcohol.
Just wait until you hit 28, and you'll be out of that quarterlife crisis thing. My friends and I just used to bemoan the entire fate of uncertainty and suddenly the picture came into view.
It has a ton to do with options. The kids getting married and popping out babies won't be having it because a lot of choices are gone that we have to contend with.
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